Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Am I normal??

Okay, well for those of you who know me, you can quit reading now.
And you can keep your mouths shut, please.
I have an image to maintain here, you know.

See, what got me thinking about whether I'm 'normal' or not, was the fact that I was industriously sweeping and cleaning my patio area yesterday, and a friend asked me why I was doing that.

I said that it's because we're heading off on holidays shortly, and I wanted the area to be tidy. Because I have a house sitter coming to stay while we're gone... and she'll be in that area a lot, since she'll be feeding the cats, watering the plants and all that.
Maybe she'll even be taking advantage of the barbecue, and sitting at the outdoor setting watching the sunset.
As people are wont to do.
And I want her to think that I'm a tidy person.

Which is when my friend looked at me and smirked.
She actually smirked.
And said : "Has she ever seen your bedroom?"

So here's the confession.
I'm a tidy person.
With a houseful of kids running amok on a daily basis, I like to keep things as clean and tidy as possible, and I think I do a pretty damn good job.

But my bedroom (which is off-limits to the kids) is another matter entirely.
I don't even think that it's permissible to call it a bedroom, because of all the odds and ends and bits and bobs that seem to end up in there. Odd socks, laundry to be put away, the collected works of anyone who has ever written a book selected writers, work papers that I have yet to sort through and put in the appropriate folders, toys that were in my pocket when I took my clothes off, a spare laptop or two and a bunch of other stuff.
A bunch of stuff.

Actually, it's more of a catch-all room.
That has a bed in it.

So there I was busily cleaning the patio ... and my friend says this house sitter is gonna see my bedroom, so that should be my priority.
And I said, but she would have no reason to open the door and look in there, so why bother?
(well yes, I know that it's worth bothering about, but I will get to it eventually. I swear.)

And then my friend says, "Well you know that people have a peek at your stuff now and again when they know they can get away with it, so it's perfectly reasonable to think that this house sitter will be peeking in your bathroom cupboard and linen closet and cabinets and any rooms that she's not actually using - particularly your bedroom.
And she will judge you."

And I said "Nooooo!!! People don't do that. Do they?"

Because see, I never have... and I've always been so reticent about even opening someone else's bathroom cupboard - even when the toilet paper roll is empty - that I'll either call out and ask permission, or I'll look in the garbage bin for a piece of used tissue or something.

Because IMO, peoples stuff is peoples stuff.
And I feel a titch uncomfortable looking at stuff that I haven't received permission to look at.

And that's when my friend said I'm not normal.

This is not... and I repeat, This is NOT my bedroom.
I don't have bunk beds, for one thing.

Excuse me, but I need to go call a locksmith now.

I don't think my friend meant that I wasn't normal just because my bedroom is messy. I think she said it because I tend to have so much (too much?) faith in people, and I trust them to do the right thing. Like not have a poke around when no one is looking. I guess I just always assume that other people will naturally do the same thing that "I" would do under the same circumstances.

You can just call me Pollyanna from now on, okay?


Ladybird World Mother said...

Oh bless your heart!! OF COURSE YOU'RE NORMAL... but maybe your friend is a teensy weensy bit right??! xxx

jen1412 said...

LMAO i've seen your bedroom and the pic comes close but i love ya anyhow........and are any of us normal???

Tatersmama said...

@Ladybird World Mother...Oh great! So you're saying that I have one more thing to worry about before the trip? Or maybe I should just call that locksmith after all? ;-)
@Jen1412... *sheesh* I asked you to keep quiet, didn't I? I guess if I were more normal, I would probably have more "normal" friends... but I love the ones I have anyway.
And no, I don't blame ya a bit. ;-)
(ps... Josh sent an email. Whew)

Treehouse Chef said...

Normal is boring! I like you just the way you are.

Libby's Library said...

Holy Crisco Bat Woman...how the heck did you get that old photo of my girl's bedroom?

Katidids said...

Ha! Looks like my sewing room! LOL, I bet you know which layer every thing is under too!

HermitJim said...

I tried normal once...didn't care for it! Too lonely for me!

Robynn's Ravings said...

Katie, I HATE to tell you this but I think your friend is right. Now, personally, I'm with you. I would NEVER snoop into anybody's anything. I feel weird even being in their house when they've asked me to be. But I've had friends who have opened drawers, cupboards, etc. I had one friend (a friend I said goodbye to years ago) who prided herself on snooping through every drawer in whoever's bathroom she was using. Freaked me out.

But you know what? I say leave it all messy. It'll make it WAYYYYY harder for her to find anything worth looking at! And while she's in there, maybe she'll organize for you. You can always casually mention those hidden cameras you leave in obscure places so you can see what's going on in your house while you're away!

Nancy M. said...

Normal is a relative thing, lol! My house is never really clean with kids always running around! My bedroom too, is pretty cluttered and if someone is visiting the door is always closed!

Homestay Mama said...

Hey, my bedroom looks like that, too! And I know I'm normal! So your friend must be wrong! :-D

Anonymous said...

Kate, I kept reading by the way, even though I know ya, shhhh my bedroom's messy too!

Marjie said...

I have a sofa in my bedroom that's a catchall for stuff. And I sweep my front steps. I don't have a patio to sweep. Yes, I believe you are normal.

And over $25 per pound for meat???? I'd want to cry!

Karen Deborah said...

Maybe Pollyanna but its the right thing to do. Me I would peek but not snoop. It would be hard not go in and clean it up to surpise you. Your bedroom is supposed to be a romantic place woman--how'd you get all those kids?

normal? A B Normal just like in the movie...

Joz said...

Tatersmama, I'm as sensitive or even more sensitive to other people's comments like your neighbor. I feel that maybe she is or was out of line making a comment like that. You are very NORMAL so don't ever doubt your self over that one. Now, let me tell you we keep our house fairly organized and clean. Because of my husbands snoring we have separate bedrooms that we can vamoose too in order to have some "ME" time and do whatever we enjoy doing. My bedroom is disorganized but I know pretty
much where everthing is and that is my SPECIAL SPOT OR SPACE in the house, it's the freedom for myself to know that I don't have to live my life to everybody's elses expectation, I live it for me, not my husbands, oh I have another laptop in there, books that I plan on reading, magazines either I have read or plan on reading, you know it is MY SPACE. I generally share it with my 3 dogs and yes I wash sheets, dog blankets, doggy pillows everything that needs to be washed either daily or if I am busy busy it is washed that week....but I don't put limits on it, I dance to my own tune and forget about what people think. My husband was complaining to my sister about it the last phone call and I told her it was the only room in the house that I could call my very own room because I shared all the rest of them with George.
Suggestion, you might want to order that locksmith to put a lock on it so that no one snoops around in it. I just literally hate that when people do that stuff, I feel they have no respect for me when they do that. I have a nosy neighbor who has been trying to get in my house for almost 3 years now and she has never made it because I sure picked up on her agenda just by talking to her the very first time, I'm not rude to her but refuse to let someone violate my rights in my own house.
thought I'd put my 2 cents in anyway....
You are such a wonderful lady and you are like me .... you have such a beautiful heart of gold, God Bless you and seriously I wouldn't worry about that neighbor who made that comment because it sounds like she might have some issues of her own...


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